Tips for parents

1. Learn the signs of bullying 

Children are often reluctant to tell their parents about bullying because they feel embarrassed or ashamed, or worry that you will be upset or angry. That’s why it’s important to recognize the signs of bullying, which can include frequent loss of personal belongings, a change in behavior, difficulty sleeping, complaining of headaches or stomach aches, loss of appetite, avoiding school activities, and not wanting to go to school. 

2. Check in with your child daily

Talk openly and frequently to your child. Spend a few minutes every day asking open-ended questions to encourage your child to share; such as how things are going at school, who they spend time with at school or at the playground, what they do in between classes and at break, who they have lunch with, or what happens on the way to and from school. Use a calm, friendly tone and create a nurturing climate so they aren’t afraid to tell you if something’s wrong.  

3. Remain calm and be supportive  

If your child confides in you about being bullied, it’s very important that you listen calmly and offer comfort and support. Displaying anger or upset may distress your child further. If you react badly, they might stop talking because they are afraid they are going to upset you. Reassure your child that it is not their fault. The most important thing you can do is to be there to listen to and support your child. 

4. Document the facts  

Keep a diary with as much information as possible, including dates, times, exact locations, the names of the children involved, and the nature of the bullying.  

5. Don’t encourage retaliation

Never, ever tell your child to hit or shout names back to the bully. It simply doesn’t solve the problem, and if your child is lacking confidence, it will just add to their stress and anxiety. 

6. Be part of their online experience 

Bullying can also occur outside of the school and online – via emails, text messages, DMs, and even social media posts. Ensure to carefully monitor your child’s screen time in a way that feels protective and not intrusive. The more conversations you have with your child about cyberbullying, the more likely they will be able to talk to you if something is going on.  

7. Share your concerns with your child’s teacher 

If you suspect your child is being bullied at school, talk to your child’s teacher immediately. Most schools have bullying policies and anti-bullying programs.